MAsT: Winnipeg - Discreet M/s

Know what level of expectation there is before getting into the situation. Is it a relaxing evening with friends with minimal service or nice dinner with family with attention to serving?

Why?

• maintain the dynamic no matter the situation and because other have not consented to being part of your dynamic/play
• to keep dynamic going
• brings you closer to have a secret
• in a kink situation, discreet to keep from drawing the attention to yourselves and focus away from other scenes

Non-verbal substitutions

• eye contact, gesturing (pointing with eyes, inconspicuous hand signals)
• patting seat next to me to show you can sit
• possible text messaging
• placing a hand on thigh to indicate permission to eat

Request permission/Permit or deny by stating intention or destination

• “I’m going to the kitchen to get a drink, do you want one?”
• “Do I have time to use the bathroom before we go?”
• “Didn’t you already have a chocolate bar today?” – no cake for you!
• “This cake is really good, you should try some.”
• Hide offering service to Master by offering service to whole group
• - “Can I get anyone anything while I’m up?”

Do small things without drawing attention to it

• walking with a hand on the back of the slave’s neck
• having the slave carry things while shopping
• sitting on the floor when others are or when seats are needed for others
• making coffee for self and Master
• putting oneself in the place to open doors according to who usually opens the doors
• use word substitutions ie. My Love in place of Sir
• in a restaurant ordering/choosing food by either party depending on how it is viewed
• slave dishing up for Master in a family buffet situation - reduces the amount of people around the table

Discreet play

• taping over inside of sunglasses and walking around with the slave wearing them
• a leash attached to a collar and fed through the arm of a jacket, holding hands means holding the leash
• under clothing bondage and plugs, ben wah bals
• ankle cuff with or without bell attached
• collar under a scarf
• writing on slaves body, especially where slave has to be careful about exposing it
• make slave eat food they don't like
• make slave wear clothing they wouldn't normally wear in that situation
• day collar

Being Discreet Through Social Media

• how much do you share
• are rules and protocols continued online
• how to interact on vanilla sites when the audience is mixed